There’s
nothing so delicious as the taste of gossip! It melts in your mouth~ Proverbs
18:8 CEV
Like most Mothers with kids
living at home, I have settled into a predictable morning routine. It goes like
this: I wake up, stumble to the kitchen, pour a cup of coffee and fight to
appear engaged while the youngest child chatters incessantly.
Following is more coffee, a lot more
chatter, and a valiant effort on my part to ensure the lunches packed are at
least marginally nourishing. I herd the kids out the door, savor the quiet,
drink more coffee, read the Bible while eating breakfast, drink more coffee and
do a quick workout while I catch up on what’s going on in the world.
Yesterday, I finished the last of
the coffee, climbed on the exercise bike and became so absorbed in working off
my caffeine buzz that I was only somewhat tuned in to the news program. That
is, until a chirpy anchorwoman declared in an insanely happy tone that a recent
study has determined gossip is actually good for us.
WHAT?
I must confess that for one fleeting
instant I was elated. For an inquisitive (nosy) person such as myself this
story was without question the best news ever. I could cave to my baser
instincts, listen to gossip and improve my health all at the same time. Just as
I was preparing to call my best friend to tell her the good news I remembered
something about the perils of buying into worldly wisdom so I decided to dig a
little deeper. I found the related article and read it carefully. The author
spoke glowingly of the benefits of gossip. According to the author, gossip will:
Tell
you how to behave on your job
Help
you to understand and improve your social standing
Inform
members of a group which behaviors are socially acceptable
Possibly
lead to self-improvement
Reading about the alleged
benefits of a behavior God calls a sin (Romans 1:29) made me wonder what
exactly God would say if we could get His unfiltered opinion of that article. I
bet it would be interesting. He wasn’t available for a quote, so I turned to
the book of Proverbs instead. Proverbs cautions us on the more negative aspects
of gossip, including:
Nobody actually likes a gossip-
Proverbs 17:28, Proverbs 20:19
Everyone enjoys listening to a juicy piece of gossip,
but nobody wants to be a victim of the rumor mill. We all know intuitively that
a gossip cannot be trusted. That’s why few gossips have many close friends.
Smart people avoid a gossip like the plague once they realize anyone who will
talk with you about another person will talk about you to other people.
Gossip is rarely completely true-
Proverbs 26:20-22
Gossip is notoriously unreliable because every
gossiper is also an embellisher. It’s part of what makes gossip so insidious.
The frame of the story may be true but the details are almost always made out
to be more interesting and salacious than they really are.
Gossip is the number one cause of
family disunity-Proverbs 6:19, Proverbs 16:28
At the root of every unhappy
family is at least one person who repeats unkind words and circulates gossip.
Sometimes this person is another family member; sometimes it’s a “friend” of
the family who likes to stir the pot and keep everyone at odds with one
another. Beware of any “friend” who wants to know too much of your family
business. They don’t have your best interests at heart.
Gossip ruins the gossiper-
Proverbs 13:3, Proverbs 16:28
There is something about spreading
stories and sharing personal information that eventually twists a person and
destroys their character. If a person gossips for long enough they will develop
an insatiable appetite for more and more information to share with others. This
happens because the sharing of information makes them feel powerful and
important. If there is no actual information to share, they will enhance
stories that are true and even lie in order to continue feeling important.
All supposed benefits aside, there
are undoubtedly less destructive ways to learn about our social standing,
understand the world around us, and improve our social standing and ourselves.
Consuming gossip is like eating a deep-fried Twinkie: it feels good while we do
it, but the effects are ugly. Passing along gossip is like sprinkling arsenic
on chocolate cupcakes. It’s a pleasant way to destroy people.
A
gossip betrays a confidence, but
a trustworthy person keeps a secret~ Proverbs 11:13 NIV
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