It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill
it~ Ecclesiastes 5:5
My years on Earth
have convinced me that from time to time the Almighty looks down from heaven,
decides that life has become far too predictable and relaxed for us, and
concludes it’s time to stir things up a bit.
The occasional
stirring-up is not necessarily a bad thing. Unforeseen changes and challenges
keep us on our knees and can become (if we allow them to) the stimulus that enables
us to understand and seek God on a much deeper level.
It’s become
increasingly obvious that God thinks my family could use a little stirring up.
We’ve experienced some crazy-big changes and challenges in recent weeks.
By far the most
dramatic and life-impacting change has been the addition of a new family
member. Nine-year-old Zoey entered our home a few weeks ago and has brought an
exciting new dynamic since day one of her arrival.
It’s been a while
since we parented such a young child. We have felt a little inadequate as we relearn
the finer points of parenting nine-year-old girls. The learning curve has been
sharp at times.
The past few days
have caused us to remember things we had nearly forgotten about parenting
younger children. These include….
There can be ugly consequences for failing to establish and stick to
routines when dealing with children
Nine-year-old girls have a flair for the theatric; this aptitude increases
as the day progresses. By bedtime they should win awards for their skills.
Young children have woefully unrefined and picky palates (seafood and
spicy foods are out—macaroni and canned soup are in)
Nine-year-olds need a lot of assistance with basic problem solving
Keeping promises is the key to good parenting
I had nearly forgotten
what an incredible downer keeping the promises we make to kids can be. I am not
a jerk, so I don’t have an issue with keeping all promises; just the promises
that turn out to be personally unpleasant for me in some way.
I’ve never had a problem with welching on a
promised trip to the zoo or the guarantee of pizza for dinner. I relish keeping
those types of promises. It’s the hard promises I hate making good on.
The loss of a privilege as a consequence for
bad behavior, or the promise of work in exchange for lost property, or an early
bedtime for lack of obedience—those are the types of promises I detest keeping.
I have a robust aversion to being the bad guy and keeping an unpleasant vow is
the quickest, most efficient way to become the bad guy.
Having a young child
in the house has forced me to take a hard look at my own tendency to dislike
keeping any promise that may have an unpleasant outcome for me personally. I’ve
discovered, to my dismay, that I can be a little bit like the prophet Jonah
when it comes to keeping vows that turn out be unpleasant.
When Jonah took on the title of prophet he
knew that the title came with a commitment to do what God told him to do. No
questions asked. Jonah was fine with that arrangement until he was told do
something he really didn’t want to do.
In Jonah’s case,
keeping his promise meant taking the good news of God’s love to a race of
people who had mistreated and abused his fellow countrymen in some pretty appalling
ways. Jonah quickly discovered that he was no longer okay with the arrangement.
As soon as keeping
his vow got tough, Jonah got going in the wrong direction. His disobedience
landed him in the belly of a fish for three days of serious think-time. While
there he had an epiphany regarding the keeping of vows.
But I, with shouts of
grateful praise, will sacrifice to you. What I have vowed I will make good~ Jonah 2:9 NIV
One of the hard realities I’ve faced in
recent days is the fact that when we take on the title of Christian we make the
commitment to do what God tells us to do. No questions asked. One of the things
that God tells us to do is to make good on the hard promises, commitments and
vows that we’ve made.
Our
communities, churches and families are suffering because of a failure of people
to make good on the vows and commitments that have been made. Maybe it’s time
for all of us to do as Jonah eventually did and make good on the hard promises
we’ve made. God’s blessing is sure to follow.
I am under vows to you, my God; I will present my
thank offerings to you~ Psalm 56:12
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